Loving Variant Minds is a compassionate and deeply researched guide to navigating relationships touched by ADHD, Autism, or both. Drawing on contemporary neuroscience, lived experience, and practical psychology, it helps couples and families understand why communication, emotion, and everyday life can feel so different - and how those differences can become strengths rather than sources of conflict.

Structured in three parts, the book begins by explaining neurodivergence in clear, human terms: how ADHD and Autism manifest, why late diagnosis is common, and how overlapping conditions such as anxiety, alexithymia, or rejection sensitivity shape behaviour. It then explores the realities of partnership - communication breakdowns, emotional regulation, intimacy, and domestic life - with honesty and empathy. Finally, it offers evidence-based strategies for building thriving relationships grounded in mutual respect, predictability, and shared understanding.

Written for both neurodivergent and neurotypical readers, Loving Variant Minds bridges science and everyday life. It avoids pathologising difference, instead reframing traits through the lens of neurobiology and context. Each chapter translates complex concepts - such as dopamine regulation, masking, and executive dysfunction - into language that partners can use to truly see and support one another.

Whether you are navigating a new diagnosis, rebuilding after years of misunderstanding, or simply seeking to love more consciously across cognitive styles, this book provides a roadmap. It reminds us that love alone is not enough - but with knowledge, patience, and structure, it can become something beautifully sustainable.